Medically Reviewed by Mahammad Juber, MD on March 05, 2025
HIV and Your Sex Life
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HIV and Your Sex Life

HIV doesn’t mean your sex life is over. There are lots of emotional and physical perks to having sex. It can reduce stress, improve your mood, and even boost your heart health! But you’ll need to take care of your sexual health and do what you can to help protect your partners. Here’s what you need to know.

Be Honest About HIV
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Be Honest About HIV

Before you have sex, let your partner know that you have HIV. That might seem hard, but being honest about your health lets them make an informed choice. It also protects you. Under some state laws, you have to disclose your HIV status before you have sex with a new partner.

Tell Your Doctor
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Tell Your Doctor

From primary care doctors to OB/GYNs and urologists, lots of different health care providers can support your sexual health. Make sure any doctor you see is aware of your HIV status. That way, they can schedule tests and shots you need to stay healthy and prescribe drugs that are safe to take with your HIV treatment. They can also take extra steps so they don’t come into contact with your blood or other body fluids.

Stay on Top of Your Treatment
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Stay on Top of Your Treatment

Antiretroviral therapy (ART) lowers the level of HIV in your blood. After several months, the virus may no longer show up on a blood test. At that point, you can’t transmit HIV to your partner during sex. Once your HIV is undetectable, stick to your treatment plan. If not, the virus could build up in your bloodstream again and put your partners at risk.

Get Screened
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Get Screened

HIV is not the only STI you need to think about. If you are sexually active, you continue to run the risk of exposure to other STIs like gonorrhea, chlamydia, herpes, and syphilis. HIV makes these infections harder to treat, so use condoms to lower your risk, and get screened for STIs at least once a year.

Get Your Shots
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Get Your Shots

Vaccines can prevent some STIs, including hepatitis A and B and human papillomavirus (HPV), which causes several kinds of cancer. Talk to your doctor if you’ve not sure whether you’ve had these shots. They will recommend vaccines based on your age, vaccines you’ve already had, and other risk factors.

Don’t Put Off Your Yearly Pap Test
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Don’t Put Off Your Yearly Pap Test

Women who live with HIV are six times more likely to get cancer in their cervix, the lower part of your uterus that connects to your vagina. The HPV vaccine can help protect you from cervical cancer. Routine Pap tests, in which a specialist looks at cells from your cervix under a microscope, can catch cervical cancer in its earliest stages or even before it starts. The earlier it’s found, the easier it is to treat.

Wear a Condom
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Wear a Condom

Even if you use another type of birth control, wear a condom or dental dam when you have vaginal, anal, or oral sex. It’s the only way to protect against HIV and other STIs. Choose a water or silicone-based lube to keep the condom from slipping. Skip oil-based lube like petroleum jelly or massage oil – it can weaken the condom and cause it to break.

Find Less Risky Ways to Have Sex
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Find Less Risky Ways to Have Sex

You’re most likely to pass HIV on to a partner through anal or vaginal sex. Hook up in ways that aren’t so risky. Oral sex doesn’t bring nearly the same level of risk. You can also explore ways to fool around that don’t involve swapping fluids like semen, vaginal fluid, or blood.

Get Help With Your Erection
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Get Help With Your Erection

As many as 60% of men with HIV can’t get or keep an erection. Talking about it with your doctor may feel awkward, but they can suggest ways to help. Sometimes changing your treatment plan can make a difference. You could also get a prescription for medicine that helps you get hard before sex.

Talk to Your Partner About PrEP
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Talk to Your Partner About PrEP

Pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP) is a drug that can protect your partner from getting HIV from you. A doctor can prescribe it as a pill or as a shot. After 7 days of pills, your partner will be fully protected during anal sex (bottoming.) After 3 weeks, they’ll be protected during vaginal sex. But to get this protection, your partner must take the medicine exactly according to their doctor’s directions.

Know How to Get PEP
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Know How to Get PEP

If your condom breaks or if your blood tests are still picking up HIV, your partner can protect themselves after sex. A series of pills called post-exposure prophylaxis (PEP) can stop HIV from spreading through their body. They’ll need to act fast though. To stop the virus, your partner has to start PEP within 72 hours (3 days) after sex. They can get PEP from a doctor, health clinic, or hospital ER.

Find the Right Type of Birth Control
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Find the Right Type of Birth Control

HIV drugs affect how well some forms of birth control work, like pills, implants, and shots. If you don’t want to get pregnant, you may need to use a different or second type of birth control. Talk to your doctor about your options. If your partner has HIV too, a diaphragm or IUD is often the safest choice.

Plan for a Family
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Plan for a Family

If you’re thinking about having a baby, ask your doctor about the pros and cons of taking HIV drugs when you’re pregnant. Also find out how you can protect your baby from HIV during pregnancy, delivery, and breastfeeding. And adopting or using a surrogate are other choices you can explore. It is illegal for adoption agencies to discriminate based on applicants’ HIV status.

Talk About Your Sex Life
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Talk About Your Sex Life

Problems with sex can be really common when you live with HIV. At some point, you might lose interest, have trouble getting aroused or erect, or not be able to orgasm. If your doctor has ruled out other health issues, think about therapy. Talking to a counselor could help recharge your sex life.